Don't Die on a Weekend!!

Few are too busy with their lives to acknowledge it and few already have plans for their weekend!!! Either way, they seem to have more important things on their mind, than you. People are too busy earning their dimes the entire week and when the weekend comes, they plan on how they are going to earn the next dime starting next week. Friends don't drop in or call anymore. Priorities catch in and calenders fill up. But the fact remains that we take out time on our availability, comfort and requirement.

So if you are planning to die on a weekend, think again, people around you don't have much time. Unless you have scheduled an appointment and have asked people to keep their calenders free. Well, this situation is not too far off I guess!! You might even find a "like" status on your Facebook profile for such a status update.

Hey, lets catch up for a coffee?

Not today...weekend? If you are free...

I have something important to talk...

Oh is it...Ok I will call in the weekend.

Enough of this...our relationship is not working.

Not now baby...can we discuss this in the weekend?

Hey, I am dying..

I am in a meeting now...can you wait till the weekend? Lol

Why do all important things need to get to the weekend or scheduled to the end of the week? As a kid I was taught "do it now" and postponing a work is procrastination and its not the answer to be a successful person. Over a period the saying changed from "do it now" to "plan it now'

In a recent conversation with a friend and argument surfaced about what "concern" means to each of us. One said, concern is about caring about the person wholeheartedly and distance or boundaries were not limited. The other side of the argument was that a concern should also be acknowledged at times by showing it at the right time and with a right gesture. Too much of concern when not required was far more less important to that shown when required and made at the right time. Both had our side of the argument which none of us won. But later, when thought about the discussion, it felt that it was not only about how much you care about a person but it is also about letting the person know that you care for him, timing is definitely the key.

Out of our busy lives with day in and day out of work load, our pursuit for happiness is only left in planning. I don't know if I can generalize the situation elsewhere but people around me have become so busy with their luxurious daily survival struggle which at times keeps me thinking if they would be able to take out time on someones unscheduled death, out of their planned schedule, if it is ought to be so.

Funny, were the days when I reached the skies.

Funny, were the days when I counted the stars.

Race is the way of life today,

Funny, that I need to plan my days now.

Funny, were the pranks I played.

Funny, were the lies I made.

Time seems a distant travel,

Funny, that I need to plan my time now.

Funny, what money meant.

Funny, how gestures were spent.

Coins replaced the pockets,

Funny, that I plan my numbers now.

Yes!! Things around us do change with time and people. Most valued people in our lives live the farthest. I do admire the fact that the values of these relationships have not diminished, yet the argument still remains that there is  always a sense of hollowness that occupies when the right shoulder is not found at the right time.

Essence of reality need not always be shown out in profoundness but taking the essence itself out of the reality is something that needs a thought on. There is nothing more important than to take out that time out of our busy lives to acknowledge that fact that we value the people who mean a lot to us and letting them know that it does not matter when and where they die, you will always be there for them!!!

Repeat the order please...

“We remember the sour implications of life and tend to forget the lighter exuberance when it comes down to know what we do and what we don’t.“

How many conversations that we had during a coffee are cherished when compared to the conversations we had during a drink? It’s hard to recollect any… Unless you believe in non-violence and have taken a vow of not losing control of yourself and looking at life in a sane way!!

Continuing on the insanity, moments when we thought that we were in complete control of what we were doing and speaking could hardly be recollected and moments when we assumed to be under control but were not, are cherished for a lifetime.

One of my friends walked bare foot for 300 mts just to tell me that I was wearing a wrong pair of footwear.

Friend to a bartender: I have 3 questions for you…

1. Are you really Chinese?

2. If you are Chinese…what’s your age?

3. No...I will not ask the third question…

A friend while getting down, hit the roof and bounced back into the car.

One stopped his car in middle of the road at 2 in the morning and called up just to inform me how stupid his friends were in doing so.

How can I forget the masterpiece when the entire group stood for the photograph only to find out that we needed to identify ourselves by the footwear.

Few never wanted to drive so that they could consume more.

Few had a fetish to drive when their so called ‘control’ tumbled around.

Just before the happy hours were over, you order few more pegs of scotch to make sure the party continued, but at half the expense.

One had reasons and the other never did.

On the other hand, conversations at a coffee shop are too intellectual I guess. If not all, most of them were. “MY” point discussions dominate the conversation and Socrates with his philosophies lived all over again in every word we said. These discussions tend to go more logical, not that we did not enjoy it; but we still have reasons to forget such conversations after an exhaustive session.

But why do people get philosophical over a coffee and emotional on alcohol?

I presume both coffee and alcohol are intoxicating to the mind. The difference is that one keeps the body in control the other doesn't.

You talk about life.

You talk about logic.

When convincing is tough,

You fall for perception.

Does it matter? Can you repeat the order please…

You talk about highs.

You talk about lows.

When the going goes good,

You indent the reasons.

Does it matter? Can you repeat the order please…

You talk about similarities

You talk about realities

When realization hangs around,

You search for priorities.

Does it matter? Can you repeat the order please…

Life is made up of moments and moments make the Life. A lost moment is a lost count in the measurement of what could have been but did not. It does not mean that you need to be more exploring, to catch up with those moments. Living the ones which come to you and those you strive for, makes more sense than striving for the ones which come to you and dreaming for those which pulls you away!!

At the end of it all….Does it matter?

Naaa….Can you repeat the order please!!!!

2 Minute drive...

How many times have you spent time laughing on the dance steps of a song from an old hindi movie, after you put the TV volume on mute. I am sure most of us have tried that, one time or the other. Have you tried playing a funny song from your IPod along with it? You will laugh your gut out. Definitely a worthwhile pass time when you are bored or sitting idle. You tend to relate those words to the steps of the song and most times they tend to match the song that you are listening to. Ever wondered how that happens?

So close to reality!!! A similar thing happens with us every time we are on the move. When you drive, obviously with your eyes wide open, you see a lot of people around you, driving, walking, standing or few in conversation with others. That’s the picture you see (TV) and when you have nothing specific to think about, your brain (IPod) starts the music. With every picture you see, music you are listening to will change. Haa shuffle mode is it?

“Why the hell is he honking? Get lost..I am not gonna give you the way.”

“Jackass…he is driving like a maniac”

“Wow…what a babe!!! Bad..she doesn’t have a good taste…look at the Idiot beside her”

“Now..which one was the shortcut? Oops guess I took the longest way possible”

“Go get a room you two…”

"Hey they are getting into fight...lets see who hits first"

Can any technology beat the music player in our mind especially when the music is being played as per your mood? You don’t need to worry about what you want to listen to and if the song you are listening to sounds not so good enough, music changes. Best part of it, you don’t need to put any efforts. Music does fade away with change in picture but in reality we frame opinions in trying to understand what we see. We frame those opinions as per our convenience, assumptions and of course our state of mind plays a role too. But somewhere down the line when we are in a similar position or situation, we tend to understand the other side of the story.

Now recall those moments when you yelled at someone for speeding or crossing the road. In peak hours, how many times have you crossed the road stopping a vehicle by just waving your hand? Your have a story to tell that you were standing on the other side of the road for a long time and you had to cross the road. There is also another side of the story to it, the story of the one who was driving the vehicle you just stopped. It doesn't end there, there was a third person who was observing you struggle crossing the road and a fourth who was observing the third staring at something on road and then the fifth…sixth…seventh…Everything is interconnected, isn't it? We tend to look at a person and try to perceive what he is up to, who in turn has a different perspective since he was looking at something else that you were unable to. Both, cant see each others views until the places change.

They say, simplest and most beautiful things in life, at times, gets ignored. You ignore a fact that you enjoyed talking to yourself in the drive without any influences and the same 2 minute drive has taught you more than what the entire day could offer. Now…what did it offer? Well… answer to that depends on the how we looked at the picture. I choose not to answer that question and generalize what each one of us had experienced while trying to understand what somebody was attempting.

But one thing that can be generalized is that if you go back to see the same picture that you saw a while back, it would have changed, not only in image but also in perception.

I was driving by when I saw him run.

I looked back, it was just a race.

I was driving by, I saw an accident.

I looked back, few friends were playing around.

I was driving by and I knew it was her.

I looked back, she had changed.

I was driving by when I heard someone call me.

I looked back, someone else had the same name.

I was driving by when the water reached the edge.

I looked back and realized that waves don't stay on shore.

I was driving by when I realized that few things were left behind.

I looked back but their destination changed.

I was driving by when I understood the miscalculation.

I looked back, traces of the steps were missing.

I was driving by and couldn't stop myself adoring few moments.

When I look back I see experiences following me.

Am I God?

When I woke up this morning, I had a strange feeling. A feeling that circled from mind to heart, logic to emotion and right to wrong. On most days, I would have called it confusion, but today, it isn't the case. It was not confusion, it was a strong feeling of doing what has to be done but weighing it in terms of moral and ethical conscience.

Weighing? Why do we need to weigh the moralities of a decision which you feel is going to do good for one or bad for the other if the intention is either of it? I am sure all of us take decisions based on how logical it is and what good it is going to do to us or the ones whom we have taken the decision for. Then why think about morality? We know the answer… “The decision we take, may not always be accepted”.

If the intuition of a decision is too high or rigid, we tend to go ahead and make the so called “people’ accept it and if the intuition is on the softer side, we tend to let it go, but that is only time bound, I assume. But, how many times have you let go a decision you made, unless and of course you couldn't take a stand on what you want. Interesting part of we humans comes up when we intend to take up that decision on a stronger note and we make sure that people accept our decision, by hook or crook.

These decisions, which may not be always beneficial to you or may not mean that you are not harming your own self or it might also mean something which might do good for someone else important to you. Let’s call this “forcing” a decision but if and when we do so IS IT NOT TOO GODLY? God forces his decisions on us whether we accept it or not!!!

How many times, decisions have been forced upon us knowingly or unknowingly. One is destined to be a cricketer…who made them one and whose decision was it…parents? Friends? One is destined to be an avatar…who influenced him? Followers? The ones who are not involved in that decision might be humble enough to say it is “destiny”. There is an old saying that “together we can make or break”. When one decision from too many people coincides they make it happen. Most times…it applies to individual decisions too.

GOD….? You don’t need powers to be one. You need not pull up the sun for it to rise or the moon, to balance life. You don’t need magic to make things happen in an instance. But one thing that makes us human’s equivalent to god is the way in which one “forces” decisions. God does it for good (they say)…we do it for good as well. Who’s good? Hmmm that’s something that one needs to debate about…

I took the turn when the sign said so.
I took the turn when the sign said so.
They said I was wrong…
I read the sign when the time said so.
They said I was wrong…

Swept by the time,
Stood by the sign,
I started being right...
As I was forced with a direction.

Learning was not tough.
Staying afloat was not enough.
Heard them say...
God has a reason, so why make it rough?

Learning was not tough.
Staying afloat was not enough.
I wrote my line...
God has a reason, if I give him mine.

I took the turn when the sign said so.
They said I was wrong...
I had my reason and took them around.
I read the sign when the time said so.
They said I was wrong...
I forced my reason and lead them along.

We blame God for something that went wrong and we thank him, at times, for doing something right.

As an individual you are judged as well, when your decisions go either way.

Except for the magical touch and the miracles that we heard about…there is a lot to compare between the two. Everyone has this intuition….everyone takes a decision at one point or the other…everyone, once in a while, force their own reasons… and all of this boils down to a question…Are you a GOD, in your own limitation? Are you a GOD, with your own reason? Are you a GOD, to think what is right and what is wrong? Are you a GOD, to own the responsibility of doing good or bad?

Are you a GOD? and Am I a GOD?